Masturbate Your Way To A Better Sex Life

There was a time when masturbation was an incredibly taboo subject that could get you banned for life from even the most liberal dinner table. While it’s still not exactly dinner table conversation–unless you’re on a smokin’ hot date and the ambiance is right–it’s far less sensitive a subject than it used to be. Maybe that’s why it’s now clear that masturbation not only feels good, but it can also make your actual sex life better, among many other benefits.

Masturbation feels good, but beyond the obvious, it’s also a great way to get to know your body and figure out what feels good, what feels great, and what you don’t like. Becoming familiar with your erogenous zones and knowing how–and where–you like to be touched can transfer to better feels in the bedroom, as long as you have an open-minded relationship with your sexual partner. Speaking of which, getting to know your partner’s preferences is also a good way to make the great sex mutual.

Masturbating on a regular basis helps you last longer when faced with the real deal. You can essentially learn to control your sexual release by stopping just before the point of no return, waiting until the urge has passed, and going at it some more. As you practice, be mindful of your body’s cues and try different tactics to stave off the inevitable, such as taking deeper breaths, focusing on something else, or moving in a different way.

It can also be helpful to perform Kegel exercises when you think of it during the day as well as when you’re polishing the rocket. Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic muscles and can help you hold off on ejaculating as well as dramatically improve ejaculation. To do these exercises, squeeze and release the same muscles that control your urine flow. Build up the number of contractions you can do over time, and mix up the amount of time you hold them and the rhythm with which you perform them. It takes just a few weeks to notice a marked difference in the power of your orgasms.

We are so lucky to live in a culture today that is slowly becoming more comfortable with the idea of sexuality, but always remember that ultimately, your sexuality is your own. We should all feel free to explore our desires without fear and to practice self-love at our own pace and without worry or shame, and certainly without the looming threat of blindness. Let today be the day you begin a brand new relationship with yourself — one that is based on freedom, desire, authenticity, and pleasure. Let your body be your guide, and remember: the better you are at loving yourself, the better you’ll be at loving other people.

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