If your relationship is struggling, depression may be the culprit. It’s astonishing how closely depression is related to relationships in a cyclical fashion: depression affects the quality of your relationships, and the features of your relationship can affect your level of depression. In other words, being depressed can cause you to pay less attention to your partner, be less involved, be more irritable or have trouble enjoying time together–all of which can cause your relationship to falter. On the other hand, relationship problems such as high conflict, lack of communication, withdrawal, and difficulty resolving problems, can all lead to depression.
Depression symptoms aren’t just hard on the depressed person. They can take a toll on all the people in his or her life. Therefore, it’s crucial to learn the importance of communication, understanding, and depression support. The symptoms like lack of energy, loss of interest, and withdrawal can make being in a relationship very difficult. Depression can be painful for the depressed person and for people who care about that person.
A depressed person is very tough to be in a relationship with. There may be no joy or any kind of positive energy coming from them. It is hard to be with someone who is down, dark, and cannot see good in anything. The depressed person may lose interest in normal activities, sex, food, and relationships. Friends, family, and a significant other may have trouble understanding these changes.
The effect of depression on your relationship may depend on who is depressed. Women and men often respond differently to depression. Women tend to experience sadness, guilt, and a lack of self-worth, while men may react to depression with anger, frustration, or even abuse. How depression affects a relationship may also depend on the breakdown of responsibilities at home and work.
Thus, the person in a relationship with a depressed partner often feels alone, helpless, and sometimes even angry. It is not only that you don’t really have a partner, you can feel like you are pushing a boulder uphill. Depression symptoms can make communication difficult.
The quality of our lives depends upon the quality of our relationships with others. Relationships are the source of so much of our happiness and success, but they can also be the cause of our pain and despair. And when we have problems with our primary relationships, it’s difficult to find joy in anything else. For many people, it’s difficult to accept the possibility that depression is the real problem. That’s because depression negatively distorts your perception and makes satisfaction with an otherwise healthy relationship more difficult. Depression can be causing your relationship problems and preventing you from the loving relationship you deserve.
Unlike a physical illness, depression doesn’t announce its arrival with acute physical symptoms. Instead, depression sneaks up on you making tiny chemical changes in your brain ever so slightly, day by day. For many, depression creeps in without being recognized until it has influenced changes in their thinking, feeling, and doing. Without realizing that depression is influencing their perception, it’s easy for sufferers to point to undesirable life conditions as the source of their unhappiness.
Depression envelops your world with a dark cloud of fog that fills your life with doubt and despair. It influences your thinking and energy and makes it almost impossible to enjoy anything in your life. Because depression affects your confidence and self-esteem, your interpretations of relations with others becomes skewed. You question and criticize yourself and become highly sensitive to criticism. Depression saps your motivation and energy level and makes you question your worthiness at work/school or in relationships. As a result, you hate your job, your partner is insensitive, and your life sucks!
The good news is that you can immediately do something about it to talk about your symptoms and it’s never too late to seek help. That brings us to another important issue. You might be feeling ashamed to discuss your symptoms with someone or guilty for having these struggles in the first place. Remember, you didn’t choose to feel this way, nor did you do anything to cause these struggles.
Taking action to receive help is the first step in becoming mentally and emotionally healthy. And doing so will give you the power to prevent depression from wreaking havoc on your relationships. So hold your head up high and be proud of yourself for having the courage to overcome a problem that is too often overlooked.
With all of these challenges, it might seem like the odds are stacked against a relationship where depression is involved. But many of these issues can be resolved once you’re aware of them and can implement effective coping strategies. It’s only when the issues are hidden and ignored that irreparable damage may occur.