Couple Counseling 

Couple Counseling serves to help couples explore their relational difficulties in a safe environment, while learning how to work together to heal their relationship.
You will discover the enjoyment of working together using Melissa Jane’s revolutionary model. Couples practice how to address painful issues utilizing boundaries and improved communication, and building on existing strengths within the coupleship. New rules of engagement are introduced. Vulnerability is encouraged. Exploration of embroiled patterns stemming from family of origin are examined reducing shame and aiding in the release of those behaviors.
1. We will work on addressing underlying hurts and issues that get triggered and create disconnection

2. Melissa Jane will help you to find new ways to process through the hurts and make the disconnection an vehicle for intimacy and new levels of love.

3. The underlying focus of the workshop helps couples to find safe ways to communicate about emotional needs.

4. This helps to bring to awareness the ways that our early life experiences affect our relationship with our love partner.

5. You and your partner will open up powerful insights and provides new knowledge about ways to reclaim positive love connections.
Melissa Jane

sexologybkk@gmail.com

Treatment for Intimacy Disorders, Infidelity, Porn and Sex Addiction

Sex addiction and intimacy disorders are real issues. So is treatment that can change your life.
Over the last few years, I have built one of the most effective programs available for the treatment of problem sexual behaviors, including serial infidelity, exhibitionism/voyeurism, compulsive masturbation or anonymous sex, as well as addiction to cybersex, Internet porn, sexual massage or strip clubs. In an emotionally safe, experienced, and respectful session together, I will help you overcome what may now seem like an insurmountable problem. Contact me for a confidential consultation and assessment. I can help.
What Are Hypersexual Disorders
Recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, sexual urges, and sexual behavior in association with excessive time consumed by sexual fantasies and urges, and by planning for and engaging in sexual behavior.
Repetitively engaging in these sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior in response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression, boredom, irritability).
Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior in response to stressful life
Repetitive but unsuccessful efforts to control or significantly reduce these sexual fantasies, urges, and behavior.
Repetitively engaging in sexual behavior while disregarding the risk for physical or emotional harm to self or others.
Melissa Jane
Sexologist

Masturbate Your Way To A Better Sex Life

There was a time when masturbation was an incredibly taboo subject that could get you banned for life from even the most liberal dinner table. While it’s still not exactly dinner table conversation–unless you’re on a smokin’ hot date and the ambiance is right–it’s far less sensitive a subject than it used to be. Maybe that’s why it’s now clear that masturbation not only feels good, but it can also make your actual sex life better, among many other benefits.

Masturbation feels good, but beyond the obvious, it’s also a great way to get to know your body and figure out what feels good, what feels great, and what you don’t like. Becoming familiar with your erogenous zones and knowing how–and where–you like to be touched can transfer to better feels in the bedroom, as long as you have an open-minded relationship with your sexual partner. Speaking of which, getting to know your partner’s preferences is also a good way to make the great sex mutual.

Masturbating on a regular basis helps you last longer when faced with the real deal. You can essentially learn to control your sexual release by stopping just before the point of no return, waiting until the urge has passed, and going at it some more. As you practice, be mindful of your body’s cues and try different tactics to stave off the inevitable, such as taking deeper breaths, focusing on something else, or moving in a different way.

It can also be helpful to perform Kegel exercises when you think of it during the day as well as when you’re polishing the rocket. Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic muscles and can help you hold off on ejaculating as well as dramatically improve ejaculation. To do these exercises, squeeze and release the same muscles that control your urine flow. Build up the number of contractions you can do over time, and mix up the amount of time you hold them and the rhythm with which you perform them. It takes just a few weeks to notice a marked difference in the power of your orgasms.

We are so lucky to live in a culture today that is slowly becoming more comfortable with the idea of sexuality, but always remember that ultimately, your sexuality is your own. We should all feel free to explore our desires without fear and to practice self-love at our own pace and without worry or shame, and certainly without the looming threat of blindness. Let today be the day you begin a brand new relationship with yourself — one that is based on freedom, desire, authenticity, and pleasure. Let your body be your guide, and remember: the better you are at loving yourself, the better you’ll be at loving other people.

PE, ED, Intimacy Disorders, Infidelity, Porn and Addictions

If you are experiencing sex problems, you will probably be feeling very alone and helpless. Shame, fear and embarrassment are other common emotions felt by people living with sexual dysfunction, and many will suffer for months, even years in silence – too afraid to discuss their concerns with anyone.

Sex problems are very common, and can occur for a number of reasons. In the majority of cases they are linked to other challenges and difficulties. For example, when you are feeling stressed and have a lot on your mind, you don’t often feel like having sex or being intimate. This knock-on effect is usually mild and temporary and will soon dissipate, but if a sexual problem is more severe and complex, it can have stronger and longer-term effects on your sexuality, your relationships and way of life.

Seeking help as soon as possible is vital for ensuring your sex problems do not have far reaching consequences. Sex therapy is considered highly effective for addressing the causes of sexual dysfunction, and for helping people to develop healthier attitudes towards sex and sexual intimacy

My name is Melissa Jane and I am an expert in Sexology from America.
I can help and support you and your partner when it comes to any sexual issues and miscommunications or just to add spark and spice to your sex life and make it a little bit more exciting.
I have more than 15 years of experience as a psychotherapist and sexologist. I work with individuals, couples, and families seeking support in Communication, Divorce adjustment, Anxiety, Depression, Sexual issues, Intimacy Problems, PE, ED, Transgender, Fetishes, Grief and Addictions.

Melissa Jane

Consultations available in Bangkok and worldwide upon request.

Work Experience and Skills

My name is Melissa Jane and I am a sex therapist and relationship expert from America.
I can help and support you and your partner when it comes to any sexual issues and miscommunications.
I have more than 15 years of experience as a psychotherapist and sexologist. I work with individuals, couples, and families seeking support in intimacy, divorce adjustment, anxiety, depression, transgender, parenting, grief and addiction.
Work Experience:
Provide counseling and psychotherapy services for adults, couples, families and groups.
Consultation for medical professionals and mental health practitioners
Supervision for mental health interns, art therapists, sex therapists.
Presenter, lecturer and teacher.
Participate in treatment planning.
Conduct individual, couples and family sessions.
Provide initial evaluations.
Specializing in treatment of anxiety and phobias.
Provide counseling and psychotherapy for individuals, couples, groups.
Skills:
Psychotherapy, Couples Counseling, Clinical Sexology, Life Transitions, Intimacy, Anger Management, Cognitive Restructuring, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-Polar and Mood Disorders, Cross Dressing, Compulsive Sexual Behavior including Internet Porn, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Phobias, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues, Affairs, Infidelity, Personality Disorders, ADD, ADHD, Psychotherapy for People in Recovery, Attachment Disorders, Trauma, Grief and Loss, Transgender, Voyeurism, Blended Family, Divorce Adjustment, Work-related Stress, Sexual Abuse, Desire Disorders, Transgender,  PCT, Lesbian and Gay Population, Fetishes, Sexuality and Aging, and Sexuality Concerns for those with Physical Disabilities, Chronic Illness, Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, ED, PE, Vaginal Problems, Paraphillias, Orgasm disorders, Anorgasmia, Vulvodynia, Retarded ejaculation, PMS, PMDD,Sexual aversion disorder , Menopause and Women/Men Health
Sex Therapist and Relationship Expert
Melissa Jane
Consultations available in Bangkok and worldwide upon request.

Premature ejaculation -PE / Erectile dysfunction -ED

Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration.

It happens with minimal sexual stimulation and before the person wishes. It may result in unsatisfactory sex for both partners. This can increase the anxiety that may add to the problem. It is one of the most common forms of male sexual dysfunction. It has probably affected every man at some point in his life.
Erectile dysfunction affects an estimated 18 million men in the U.S. Alone.
Treating ED with medications like sildenafil (brand name: Viagra) isn’t your only option.
Instead, there are exercises you can do. Pelvic exercises helped 40 percent of men with ED regain normal erectile function. It also helped an additional 33.5 percent significantly improve erectile function, with consultation and exercise.
My name is Melissa Jane and I am a sex therapist and relationship expert from America.
 I believe in a holistic, professional approach. These things work on body, soul and a spiritual level.
Sex Therapist and Relationship Expert
Melissa Jane
Consultations available in Bangkok and worldwide upon request.

Male Sexual Dysfunction

What is sexual dysfunction?

Sexual dysfunction is any physical or psychological problem that prevents you or your partner from getting sexual satisfaction. Male sexual dysfunction is a common health problem affecting men of all ages, but is more common with increasing age. Treatment can often help men suffering from sexual dysfunction.

The main types of male sexual dysfunction are:

  •  Erectile dysfunction (difficulty getting/keeping an erection)
  •  Premature ejaculation (reaching orgasm too quickly)
  •  Delayed or inhibited ejaculation (reaching orgasm too slowly or not at all)
  •  Low libido (reduced interest in sex)
  • Changes in the way you ejaculate
  • Bleeding during urination or ejaculation
  • Warts, bumps, lesions or a rash on your penis or in your genital area
  • A severely bent penis or curvature that causes pain or interferes with sexual activity
  • A burning sensation when you urinate
  • Discharge from your penis
  • Severe pain after trauma to your penis
  • Abrupt increases in sexual desire, particularly in older men
  • Significant declines in sexual desire

If you want to keep bringing your A-game to the bedroom, sometimes you need more than just experience and time on the “field.” When facing a “batting slump” or other problem that prevents you from having sex, it’s time to call in an expert.

While male sexual dysfunction cannot be prevented, dealing with the causes of the dysfunction can help you better understand and cope with the problem when it happens. To help maintain good sexual function.

To stay fit in the bedroom, sometimes you need expert advice. Don’t be afraid to seek help and discuss about these performance issues.
The problem will not go away overnight or on its own and the sooner you seek help the better for you and your sex life. In addition to damaging your ego, sexual issues may signal more serious health conditions. In most cases, these can be treated. You need a plan of action.
Sex  Therapist  and Relationship Consultant
Melissa Jane

PE, ED, Intimacy Disorders, Infidelity, Porn and Sex Addiction?

PE, ED, Intimacy Disorders, Infidelity, Porn and Sex Addiction?
If you are experiencing sex problems, you will probably be feeling very alone and helpless. Shame, fear and embarrassment are other common emotions felt by people living with sexual dysfunction, and many will suffer for months, even years in silence – too afraid to discuss their concerns with anyone.
Sex problems are very common, and can occur for a number of reasons. In the majority of cases they are linked to other challenges and difficulties. For example, when you are feeling stressed and have a lot on your mind, you don’t often feel like having sex or being intimate. This knock-on effect is usually mild and temporary and will soon dissipate, but if a sexual problem is more severe and complex, it can have stronger and longer-term effects on your sexuality, your relationships and way of life.
Seeking help as soon as possible is vital for ensuring your sex problems do not have far reaching consequences. Sex therapy is considered highly effective for addressing the causes of sexual dysfunction, and for helping people to develop healthier attitudes towards sex and sexual intimacy
My name is Melissa Jane and I am an expert in Sexology. I was educated in Europe and America and am fluent in English and Thai.
I can help and support you and your partner when it comes to any sexual issues and miscommunications or just to add spark and spice to your sex life and make it a little bit more exciting.
I have more than 15 years of experience as a psychotherapist and sexologist. I work with individuals, couples, and families seeking support in child/teenager problems, intimacy, divorce adjustment, anxiety, depression, transgender, parenting, grief, and addiction.
Melissa Jane

What is erectile dysfunction?

A man is considered to have erectile dysfunction when he has regular difficulty in getting or maintaining a firm enough erection to be able to achieve sexual penetration, or which interferes with non-penetrative sexual activity.

Most men have occasionally experienced some difficulty with their penis becoming hard or staying firm, but this is not normally cause for a diagnosis of erectile dysfunction. This condition is only considered a concern if satisfactory sexual performance has been impossible on a persistent number of occasions for some time.

Broadly, two forms of erectile dysfunction can affect men’s sex lives – the main cause is either medical or psychosocial.

Here, psychosocial refers to the psychological effects – including the effects of social relationships – on sexual performance. Medical conditions can also affect psychological wellbeing, meaning that, while the primary cause of sexual impotence is typically either medical or psychological, there is often overlap between the two.

Erectile dysfunction used to be known more widely as ‘impotence’ before the causes became better understood and successful treatments came into use. Impotence is a term that is still in use, however, although it can be seen as pejorative.

To understand the causes of erectile dysfunction, it helps to understand how an erection happens physically.

Relaxation of muscle (in parts of the penis and the walls of the arteries supplying it) allows blood to rush into the cylinder-shaped spongy tissue of the erection chambers, creating increased tissue pressure and an erection. Valves prevent the blood from flowing back out through the veins (which would cause a venous loss of pressure), and the resulting hardness persists until stimulation stops or ejaculation occurs.

It is always worth consulting a physician about persistent erection problems as the cause of erectile dysfunction could be any one of a number of serious medical conditions. Whether the cause is simple or serious, a proper diagnosis can help to address any underlying medical issues and can help resolve sexual difficulties.

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Psychological impotence is where erection or penetration fails due to thoughts or feelings (psychological reasons) rather than physical impossibility; this is somewhat less frequent but can often be helped. Notably in psychological impotence, there is a strong response to placebo treatment. Erectile dysfunction can have severe psychological consequences as it can be tied to relationship difficulties and masculine self-image.

 

Benefits of a Lingam massage

  • One of the primary benefits of the massage is to obtain better control of your sexual energy and your sex drive. If a therapist is helping you with the massage they will “stand down” or step away when the recipient is near orgasm. After several sessions the recipient will be able to prolong ejaculation.
  • Solve sex related problems such as premature ejaculation
  • Improve blood circulation for a better firmer erection.
  • Better control over internal energy.
  • Fight stress and depression.

Melissa Jane

Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE) reportedly affects an estimated 20 to 30 percent of men, though this reality often gets lost in the many punch lines made about the condition.

The problem with making fun of men who might experience PE is that it moves them to suffer in silence. They’re discouraged from speaking up and addressing potential treatment with their doctor, not to mention their partner. While untreated PE is not associated with any long-term health problems, it is associated with an increase in stress, anxiety, and relationship problems.

What is premature ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration. It happens with minimal sexual stimulation and before the person wishes. It may result in unsatisfactory sex for both partners. This can increase the anxiety that may add to the problem. It is one of the most common forms of male sexual dysfunction. It has probably affected every man at some point in his life.

What causes premature ejaculation?

Most cases of premature ejaculation do not have a clear cause. With sexual experience and age, men often learn to delay orgasm. Premature ejaculation may occur with a new partner. It may happen only in certain sexual situations or if it has been a long time since the last ejaculation. Psychological factors such as anxiety, guilt, or depression can also cause it. In some cases, it may be related to a medical cause such as hormonal problems, injury, or a side effect of certain medicines.

What are the symptoms?

The main symptom is an uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after intercourse begins. Ejaculation occurs before the person wishes it, with minimal sexual stimulation.

How is premature ejaculation diagnosed?

I will discuss your medical and sexual history with you, and will do a thorough physical exam. Later i may want to talk to your partner also. Premature ejaculation can have many causes.

1. You’re not alone

PE occurs when a man ejaculates sooner than expected, about one to three minutes. And it’s a common sexual complaint, according to the Mayo Clinic; as many as one out of three men have experienced this problem at some point in their life.

2. Diagnosis criteria

It’s not a cause for concern if it happens infrequently. If, however, it always or nearly always occurs within one minute of penetration, you may meet the diagnostic criteria for PE, the Mayo Clinic reported. Other criteria include being unable to ejaculate during intercourse all or nearly all of the time, plus allowing feelings of distress and frustration to deter you from future sexual intimacy.

3. Masturbation counts

PE isn’t limited to sexual intercourse. It can also happen when men masturbate.

4. Risk factors

The Mayo Clinic cites the exact cause of PE remains unknown. Experts once believed there were only physiological causes, but recent research shows the condition is more complicated than that, hinting at the possibility of biological causes.

5. Physiological

Physiological causes include “situations in which you may have hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered; guilty feelings that increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters; erectile dysfunction; anxiety; and relationship problems,” the Mayo Clinic reported.

6. Biological

Biological causes include abnormal levels of testosterone or certain neurotransmitters, as well as an abnormal reflex activity of the ejactulatory system, certain thyroid problems, inflammation and infection of the prostate or urethra, otherwise inherited traits, and nerve damage from surgery or trauma. The latter two causes are thought to be incredibly rare.

7. Two types

There’s “lifelong PE” and “acquired,” or secondary, PE. Lifelong means “men have experienced the condition nearly all of the time since their first sexual encounters.” Though symptoms are similar for the acquired variety, “it develops after men have had previous sexual experiences without ejaculatory problems.”

8. Side effects

PE won’t necessarily lead to health problems, but it may lead to personal problems, such as increased stress and anxiety. There’s also the possibility of fertility problems, the Mayo Clinic says. PE can occasionally make fertilization difficult or impossible for couples trying to have a baby.

9. Testing

Test for PE by asking men about their sexual history, performing a general physical exam and a possible urine test to rule out infection. If men struggle with PE and erectile dysfunction, doctors may then order blood tests to measure testosterone levels.

10. Treatment

The most common treatment options are behavioral techniques (masturbating a couple hours before intercourse), topical anesthetics (numbing agents to reduce sensation), oral medications to delay orgasm, such as antidepressants, and counseling. Treatments take time to work, and for some men, relief may be a result of combined treatment.

11. Alternative treatment

There are also alternative treatments men can consider; kegel exercises and tantric techniques “to establish an intimate connection.”

12. “Stop-Start” and “Squeeze”

Perhaps the most popular alternative treatments are the “stop-start” and “squeeze” methods. When men “stop-start,” they aim to master the technique of masturbating alone and getting close to orgasm, but stopping until they can’t anymore. The “squeeze” method requires a man “squeeze the base of the penis at the same point that the stop-and-start technique would be used, when he is at the brink of orgasm,” Bermain explained. “The idea is to reduce your partner’s erection through squeezing.”

13. Expert-approved approaches

I believe in a holistic, multi-professional approach. These things work on body, soul and a spiritual level. Consultation and training along with treatment.

14. “Suffer in silence”

Premature ejaculation (PE) refers to the inability to sustain endurance before ejaculating, or quite simply, ejaculating too early! It may be surprising to find out that PE is one of the most common sexual problems males encounter from all countries of the world.