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Loss of Sex Drive
Lack of or a low sexual desire is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions. Getting to the root of low libido can help you enjoy sexual activity again.
As many as 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men have experienced sexual dysfunction, and one of the most common problems is low libido, or a low sex drive.
Missing the spark that makes you want to enjoy sexual activity is a prevalent type of sexual dysfunction, but it is also one of the trickiest to solve.
For some people, low libido is a new problem that has a physical or emotional cause. Others may have had low sexual desire their entire lives, and that may be a result of the way their brains are hardwired. When it’s an ongoing problem, there might be more to the problem than you think and if left untreated or ignored, it could only get worse leading to anxiety, depression, frustration.
Melissa Jane
Masturbation is one of the best things you can do
Masturbation is one of the best things you can do for your body. If you want to treat your body well, then you want to add masturbation to your list of ways to do just that. If you’re active, eat well, and avoid toxins like smoking and excessive drinking, then why aren’t you masturbating, too? And if you are, why aren’t you masturbating more? It’s not like you can overdo it, well, except for those few times I was late to work, because I couldn’t stop, but I’ve never been one to adhere to the advice of moderation so that’s on me.
The mental and physical health aspects of masturbation aside, it also makes you better at sex. No joke. It’s a woman who masturbates and masturbates often who’s killing in the sack. Here are a few reasons why.
First, masturbation helps to promote healthy blood flow to the genitals. By improving circulation to this area, you can ensure that your sexual response stays in tip-top shape and that your orgasms remain strong and powerful.
Studies have found that a negative perception of your body can really mess up your libido. Not only can it make it so you don’t enjoy sex as much as you should, but that you don’t even want it all. But in masturbating regularly you become more comfortable with your body.
By enjoying masturbation, you can keep connected to your own sexual desires and fantasies, and learn what excites you.
The best way to strengthen any muscle is to exercise it. When you masturbate, that’s exactly what you’re doing to your pelvic floor muscles.Stronger pelvic floor muscles lead to better sex and more orgasms. Better sex how, you ask? If you’ve ever clenched your partner’s penis with your vaginal muscles during sex, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s like giving a hand job during penetration and feels amazing for both of you.
Regular masturbation can help prevent urinary tract infections, yeast infections, and even cervical infections. What this means is that without these things standing in the way of your sex life, you get to have more sex, which is essentially practice that makes you even better at it. Practice makes perfect, people.
Sex therapists across the globe have found that men who experience premature ejaculation during sexual intercourse can benefit from masturbation about 2 hours before sex. This enables them to have a longer duration of intercourse before another ejaculation comes on.
Taking yourself to palm prom may help you stretch your sack sessions. Train yourself by timing how long it takes you to orgasm. If it usually takes two minutes solo, try for three next time. Or count how many strokes you need to get to your happy place. If you’re spurting after 50, shoot for 60. Practice makes perfect, right?
Masturbation has been used in the management of stress, as it results in release of feel-good hormones, called oxytocin, in the body. It has also been found useful in dealing with depression.
Happy Sex
Sex is a taboo subject in many ways, but most of us want it, practicing it and enjoying it.
Friday afternoon we start to cool down for the weekend and we wish each other a Happy Weekend, Have Fun, Enjoy and Have a great Weekend. Have you ever wish anyone Happy sex?
Sex is… perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we are all sexual?
Sue Johanson
1. Talk about it, even if it feels awkward to bring up.
If you want to get back to having sex, you’re going to have to bring up the elephant in the room: Tell your partner you’re unhappy with your sex life and want things to change. The important thing is to be real with each other and gauge whether or not your S.O. feels similarly.
Have a direct conversation about what you each are willing to do to rebuild your sex life, You need to both agree that you are unhappy with the quality and frequency and be willing to commit time and energy into rebuilding it.
If one of you is perfectly content with your lackluster sex life, you may need to see a therapist.
2. Flirt shamelessly.
If at this point, you can count the number of times you’ve held hands in the last year, it’s not a good thing. Once you’ve had the conversation above, flirting with your spouse is the best way to demonstrate that you mean business about having sex again, said Skurtu.
“Talk to your partner about what styles of flirtation you find exciting as well — ‘I like it when you kiss me randomly and then go do something else. It leaves me wanting more!’” Play again -You can send flirty texts, just start to be playful again.
3. Don’t wait for your partner — go solo.
Just because sex with your partner is infrequent doesn’t mean you’re not a sexual person. Masturbating more often is one of the most liberating moves you can make during this sexless period.
If your partner’s libido is gone, you can still have a rich and active sex life! This is a revolutionary way to think about sex in a couples-obsessed culture and it goes way beyond masturbation: You can enjoy all of the sensual pleasures of life, get into the best shape of your life and otherwise enjoy being in your body.
4. Carve out some time for a weekly sex date.
Scheduling time for sex may sound supremely unsexy but hey, desperate times call for desperate measures. When you and your partner have hit your stride again, you’ll think back fondly on your days of Google calendar-suggested sex.
With a sex date on the calendar, you are more likely to plan out what you can do to make it fun, different and exciting.
5. Hug and touch on a regular basis.
Bringing sexy back isn’t going to happen overnight, but it helps to remember that making a connection doesn’t have to be an all or nothing deal. Start with a massage or simply touching and work your way up to sex, said sex educator Chris Maxwell Rose.
Affectionate touch is just as important to the health of a relationship as passionate sex. “Even if you aren’t having sex, try to add more casual affection into your days; long hugs, kissing and cuddling are all wonderful ways to express your love.”
Take baby steps at first, Rose added: “Aim for at least one long hug (at least 20 seconds or longer to trigger the release of oxytocin) or cuddling session a day.”
6. Revisit your sexual highlights as a couple.
You don’t want to dwell on the past, but bring up good memories can be a good start
“Start from the beginning and be specific: ‘You remember when we were on that hike in the woods and we ended up having sex?’” Skurtu said. “Go through old sex stories play by play and talk about how it felt for each of you during those experiences. This skill can help couples begin to feel that old spark together.”
7. If something feels good, go with it.
You may have had certain preferences back in the day. As you re-approach sex again, give yourself permission to experiment with whatever comes naturally and feels right to you both, Nelson said. It may help you get out of your rut.
“If you ate ravioli every night of the week for year after year, wouldn’t you be totally sick of ravioli?” she said. “Try something new. You aren’t going to have sex if you’ve been together for a long time and sex has become boring or mundane.”
8. Romance each other.
Aside from sex dates, make a plan to go on actual dates.
“Go on a classic long walk on the beach, dress up sexy for each other or light a fire at home,” she said. “The key is to put some effort into the time you spend with your spouse.”
Here are a few super small, simple ideas that can be a lot of fun:
- Have sex at a different time of day than you usually do.
- Get down in a new room or on a new surface, like on the stairs, in your kitchen, or on top of the washing machine.
- Use pillows beneath your butt to create new angles in your favorite sex positions.
- Try having sex for different lengths of time, like going for quickies or spending an entire afternoon being intimate.
God luck, and have fun exploring!
Wish You a Happy Sex day!
Melissa Jane
Anxiety
Anxiety disorder is the most common mental illness in the United States — it affects approximately 18 percent of the population
So how does it feel to just try to live your life with anxiety disorder?
CAITLIN FLYNN wrote: How 7 Everyday Tasks Feel For Someone With Anxiety
SEXOLOGIST MELISSA JANE
My name is Melissa Jane and I am an expert in Sexology. I was educated in Europe and America and am fluent in English and Thai.
I can help and support you and your partner when it comes to any sexual issues and miscommunications or just to add spark and spice to your sex life and make it a little bit more exciting.
I have more than 15 years of experience as a psychotherapist and sexologist. I work with individuals, couples, and families seeking support in child/ teen problems, intimacy, divorce adjustment, anxiety, depression, transgender, parenting, grief, and addiction. The aim of sex therapy is to focus on the sexual side of a relationship.
Sexual problems are one of the most common sources of conflict in a relationship and are often also the reason for divorce and miscommunication. This is a specialized field and can help to solve problems within the marriage or relationship.
I believe in a holistic, multi-professional approach. These things work on body, soul and a spiritual level. Sex therapy and marriage counseling can’t be successfully done with only one person, and you can seldom focus only on the physiological dysfunction, seeing as there is an overflow effect. Sexual problems must be solved within a relationship context. Sex therapy combines sex education, relationship counseling and sexual exercises.
I have a problem with the word “sex” because everyone’s definition of sex is different. For me it matters where a relationship begins. When you have an emotional relationship with somebody where you feel safe and comfortable, must your physical relationship also grow as your emotional relationship grows?
I see daily how people have buried their sexuality. A couple must decide for themselves what sex is for them and what they are comfortable with.
This is where a relationship must develop naturally, also the physical.
Unfortunately people get too physical in the “in love” stage, and even have sex. There is nothing as bad as when you are looking for love and acceptance and then instead get sex that is not equal to love. It is often said that couples must ensure that they are sexually compatible before they get married. A penis and a vagina are made to be compatible. A person must ensure that you are emotionally, intellectually and spiritually compatible and that doesn’t happen easily if you are already on the physical road.
Couples with sexual problems normally have relationship problems too, but also the other way around – relationship problems can also create sexual problems. It’s almost impossible to try to solve a problem like this if both parties are not willing to work on it. Even if sexual dysfunction is the result of a medical problem and should be solved with medication, a person should still make the partner part of the solution.
Sex is a two-way street meaning that it takes two to tango. Relationships force you to confront your own issues, problems and hurts. Certain things come to the surface and then counseling is necessary. You can start with yourself and then change the energy of the relationship. If you change how you handle the dynamics of the relationship, you also force your partner to change, and often it is a case of “I want what you have”.
Don’t wait until the problem is too big or unsolvable. Sometimes giving permission, getting information, advice and medical treatment can cause a dramatic improvement in a sexual relationship. Poor communication and conflict that gets worse and is not resolved must also be addressed by a professional person.
Work Experience:
- Provide counseling and psychotherapy services for children, teens, adults, couples, families and groups.
- Consultation for medical professionals, and mental health practitioners
- Supervision for mental health interns, art therapists, sex therapists.
- Presenter, lecturer, and teacher.
- Participate in treatment planning.
- Conduct individual, couples, and family sessions.
- Provide initial evaluations.
- Specializing in treatment of anxiety and phobias.
- Provide counseling and psychotherapy for individuals, couples, groups.
Skills:
Psychotherapy, Couples Counseling, Clinical Sexology, Life Transitions, Child/Teen Problems, Intimacy, Anger Management, Sexual Abuse, Cognitive Restructuring, Anxiety, Depression, Bi-Polar and Mood Disorders, Cross Dressing, Compulsive Sexual Behavior including Internet Porn,Depression, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Phobias, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues, Affairs,Personality Disorders, ADD/ADHD, Psychotherapy for People in Recovery, Attachment Disorders,Trauma, Grief and Loss, Transgender, Lesbian and Gay Population, Blended Family, Divorce Adjustment, Work-related Stress, and Sexuality Concerns for those with Physical Disabilities andChronic Illness. Intimacy, Sexual Abuse, Desire Disorders, Transgender, Affairs, Erectile Dysfunction, Cross Dressing, Compulsive Sexual Behavior including Internet Porn, Lesbian and Gay Population, Fetishes, Sexuality and Aging, and Sexuality Concerns for those with PhysicalDisabilities and Chronic Illness.
Everything will be strictly confidential and respectful.
We will meet in the environment best for you and your partner.
Everything will be tailor made just for You.
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